I admit to being annoyed when I hear children say this (especially when not rebuked by their parents for saying it), but I get downright testy when I hear grown people resorting to “It’s not fair!” Challies writes, “Worrying about fairness is a spiritual and emotional dead end.” True that.
From years of personal and counseling experience I know that nothing is more damaging to us spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and behaviorally than responding to the unpleasant, unwanted, and (in our judgment) undeserved attitude of life with the ‘it’s not fair’ attitude.
Challies explains how Mack addresses this:
In this book, Mack focuses on four aspects of God’s character that he thinks are the most useful in counteracting and destroying the devastation brought about by the “it’s not fair” attitude. He looks to God’s wisdom, love, sovereignty and justice. These characteristics, taken individually and together, counter an attitude that we are somehow getting less than we deserve.
Sometimes we are angry at other people, and sometimes we’re angry about situations or circumstances. Ultimately, we are angry with God, regardless of how well we disguise it—even to ourselves.
Challies also has a link at the bottom of the page so you can buy the book at monergism.com.